I’m Black, My Boyfriend’s Asian And We’re Living The Rom-Com We’d Love To Watch

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Diverse images of desirability do, in fact, have the power to provoke a fundamental change in the way others think; and not just about desiring and dating Asian men and black women.

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Hi Patrice. You look so badass in your pictures. That’s the first thing my boyfriend Tian Jun ever said to me. The year was 2016. The place: my Tinder inbox. His bio matched the charm and wit of his message and his photos suggested he had good looks, an eclectic social life, and a dope job that required creativity, grit, and ambition. So I messaged Tian Jun back, which led to a casual text exchange, which led to him asking me out, which led to our first date at Butter & Scotch bar and bakery two weeks later. After breezing through standard routine chit-chat, we discovered that neither of us were on Tinder looking for a significant other. We were merely two busy writers — him for television, me for journalism — who enjoyed meeting new people while also exploring the best city in the world and stuffing our faces at restaurants and bars we’d bookmarked on Yelp.